The other woman

Of late, the talk shows helped me to learn more about myself and it urges me to take a closer look at my life.

It is not work per se. For me. (less) For him. (more) 

I learned that there is an "unknown" in the journey of relationships, all the more when it is between a man and a woman, not more.

Three people are too many in a crowd.

At times, again, conventionally, people would label third party as the culprit when it tears down someone's marriage, a lovely, normal family unit and overall, a healthy social fabric.

I asked myself whether we should continue to hold this view.

When a man turned his heart away from his wife, it is not another man or woman, i.e. the third party alone in the picture. The man himself, plays the part, in making his choice to tear down the first legal relationship. Somehow, the society tends to cast the blame on the third party alone.

It takes two to ride in a relationship. Not the third party's role per se.

Undeniably and inevitably, the innocent chidlren will bear the unpleasant consequences.

Somehow, perhaps as they grow up, they will learn that there is this "unknown" element in their parents relationship.

There are two schools of thought on this subject, which I came across so far-

The fate believer and the "work-out" believer.

The latter proposes that relationship needs to be work at, despite the variables. If you do not give up and put in the effort sincerely to work hard to salvage an almost broken relationship, it will survive. The fate believer will tell you that no matter what you do - will not change the situation if that is destined. It may only prolong time but in the end, it will crash. The fate of marriage is over. 

Should a lawful relationship then stay for the sake of little children? To allow them to live in a normal, healthy family unit. Ideally.

Is it wise to put an external facade while two broken hearts suffer in silence for the little ones? 

No easy answer to these questions.